I get it!

For years I thought there was something wrong with me. Everyone seemed to be suggesting the same solutions, tools and modalities. From therapists to nutritionists, psychiatrists to acupuncturists, coaches to chiropractors: everyone had the same recommendations on how to feel better. And yet, even though I tried them all…none of the solutions gave me the benefits they were supposed to. Or even provided enough benefit to outweigh the effort required.

Instead, all I felt was overwhelmed and burnt out. It seemed there was an endless amount of new tools to learn, solutions to accomplish, and things to try (and buy!) with little to no effect. With every disappointment, I felt more ashamed and frustrated.

I felt deeply unseen and unsupported by those who told me to just “try harder”. I felt as if the failure was my own fault, and others were more than ready to second this idea.

It wasn’t until I learned how to turn down the outside noise and decipher what my unique self needed that I could finally understand how to help myself in moments of anxiety, overwhelm and daily stress. It all started with clearing out the “shoulds” along with the shame and blame. And getting really honest about what worked and what didn’t.

Here’s the thing

Especially for those of us with queer identities, nuanced lived experiences or marginalized backgrounds, the majority of these solutions weren’t actually created for us.

In fact, at their roots, most of the common recommendations come right out of the very systems that harmed us in the first place. They are not designed to take complexity into account and cannot encompass nuance of experience. For some of us, certain solutions may not even be safe to practice.

Instead, I learned how to create my own freedom and peace that was specific to me. When I allowed myself to decide what to accept and what to reject based on my own lived experience, my own knowing, and my own unique way of being that’s when the magic happened.

And you can absolutely learn to do the same.

So, if you’re feeling like you’ve spent a lot of time, money and effort learning skills, tips and tricks on how to help yourself (and you have yet to see the big payoff) then this is the right place for you.

My name is
Dominique Cilento
(they/she)

I’ve had the honor of working with groups and individuals for over a decade. I bring my certified coaching skills and creative background to those who are often left out of modalities rigidly designed for only one type of person. As a Sapphic-queer person, I’ve been on the receiving end of a lot of advice that just doesn’t work since it was never created for a queer context. I’ve made it my mission to help others like myself experience empowerment by reconnecting with their own inner knowing about what’s right for them. I center a queer lens approach to foster liberation from internalized oppression and systemic harm. My practice is Queer-Owned, Queer-Safe & Queer-Affirming!

• Reignite your self-care practice while fitting it into your real life
   
• Connect with exactly what works to bring you back to center
   
• Gain back your own capacity by streamlining your approach
   
• Get your questions answered and receive top-notch support
   
• Bring in the nuance of your live experiences
   
• Create your plan you can easily reference when you need it
   
• Connect to your own authentic expression and foster your own joy
   
• Never again wonder how to help yourself in the moments you need it most
   
• Easily share with others how to best support you

If you know this is the guidance you need to clear out the clutter and connect with your own form of self-care, then click the “Get me started” button now.

Don’t go back to just “trying harder” hoping something is bound to come of it. Putting in more effort and wondering why it just doesn’t pay off.

Today, it may look like I just “magically” know what to do for myself. But beneath the surface you’ll find that I too struggled for many years. Getting overwhelmed would put me in severe crisis mode and I’d be unable to help myself or tell others what I needed. And the impact would take me out for days (even weeks or months)…

Then I learned the skills I’ll share with you in this program. And went from breakdowns that took me out to being able to come back to myself in minutes.

It’s not because I’m special. It’s because I finally discovered how to cut through all the noise, connect with my own knowing, and streamline my approach. And now, I want to help you do the same.